Being Bride

Being bride is one of the greatest feeling we get after being born as a girl. And every girl gets a chance to be bride in her life. Since I am from Newari community, here we become bride not only once but thrice. Yes you heard right, three times including the marriage with a bridegroom. And the whole culture, tradition and process is incredibly amazing and beautiful.

Everyone is aware of the marriage that every girl does with a boy. But two marriages that I had done and every Newari girl does is new to other people (except Newari). The differences in these marriages or in our tradition is that a girl gets married first with a bel (a type of fruit), second with the sun and third with a boy. First and second marriages must be done before a girl gets her period.

Now I’m going to write something about these marriages, like how it is done.

Bel Bibhaha (with bel)

Bel is a kind of fruit but it is not used for eating purpose. Every girl has her own bel before the whole marriage ceremony starts. And during the ceremony all bels are kept together and are distributed to girls. Since a girl marries with bel, it is known as bel bibaha or ihi (in Newari). It is believed a girl will get a bridegroom according to the size and shape of the bel. All girls wear beautiful bridal dresses with jewelries. Nowadays girl of very small age are also brought for bel bibaha. This ceremony is completed in two days.Two different kind of dresses are worn by little girls in this ceremony. It really feels great and lucky that I also got chance to experience it.

Suryadarsan (with sun) 

Suryadarsan or gufa or bara (in Newari) is done with those girls who had done bel bibaha. It is another type of marriage which is done with sun. Girls are kept locked in a room for 12 days where rays of sun can’t reach. During that time no boys or men can see them. Girls are feed properly and taken good care. A special kind of homemade cream (like a) is used of girls in order to make their skin more soft and beautiful. When girls are kept in gufa, number of girls must be even and if it is odd handmade doll is kept as a pair. I already had experienced it and I loved it. My friends visited me and we played games, had lots of fun.

And once 12 days are completed, girls are made ready with beautiful dress and ornaments. And girls are not allowed to see sun directly at first time, they see sun through a hole they make with their fingers. And then whole puja is done and feast is served.

Bibaha (with boy)

I think I don’t have to explain you guys about it because everybody is totally known to this marriage.

Yomari Punhi : festive time

According to the Nepali calendar, today is Yomari punhi. Yomari punhi is spoken specially in newar family. Yomari is a type of food as you can see in the picture and punhi is purnima. Being a newar I find all these festivals very amazing and interesting. And on top of that yomari is undoubtedly delicious. My nationality is Nepali but my mother tongue is Newar and only a Newar would know how importance these festivals are. We newar don't miss a month without a festival, like really we celebrate one festival in a month. So this yomari punhi is also a festival specially celebrate by Newars. 

 Main theme of our festivals is to eat, to be healthy and to be happy. And one thing I can guarantee you all that our health is always good until we stick to our pure home recipe. So this yomari is totally healthy and sweet. Since winter has started, I personally love to eat hot yomaris. 

In formal language, yomari is a rice flour dumpling stuffed with molasses. It is a sweet Newari desert steamed and served hot. Yomari looks beautiful outside and sweet inside. And please not for a second, do not think it'll be difficult to make. It's look like difficult but once u get kneed-ed flour of rice in your hand, I am sure you'll find it very easy to make.

For making yomaris, ingredients you need are rice flour, chakku(molasses), sesame, vegetable oil, hot water. As I have already said, being a Newar I know how to make yomari. But that's the other thing that it doesn't look as good as my parents make. But I always try to make good ones and today also I am going to make. So what I exactly wanna say is you all can try to make and have that taste. If you want recipe from me specially then you can comment below.

And one last but not the least, in my Newar culture people having birthday in yomari punhi are given a mala of yomari. It's a kind of celebration and culture and it's very wonderful to see that stuffs.

9 reasons why you should love dogs

I don't have my own dog but my neighbors do have and I feel them mine too. I like dogs and I would love to have them at my house but at the same time I am afraid of them. But I see so many reasons to love dogs than to dislike and hate them. These are some reasons that I know about dogs for which we have to love them and care them.

1. Make you feel safer

I know barking afraid you all, but we all know how dogs protect you and your home. Not only this, if you are late out at night and alone then you feel safe if dogs are with you.

2. Can be your best friend

Dogs are your best friend and they are always with you whether it's your good time or bad. They make you feel like you got a friend to share anything at anytime. You can laugh with them, cry with them, make jokes or do anything. They are always by your side.

3. Don't let you feel alone

When your dog is not home, you feel something is missing. Your dog never leaves you alone. If you have your dog then you will never have to say that I am alone at home. He provides you company in anyway. Dog only makes your mind and mood better.

4. Make you do exercise daily

Even if you are not the exercise type person, your dog make you exercise daily. It's in nature of them that they want to go outside and play. So you must take your dog to walk and to visit outside. This will make you more healthy and will keep your mind fresh.

5. Will let you feel less stressed and depressed

When we feel depressed and are sad then we feel if can talk to someone. We wished to be there for us, when we really are frustrated or pissed off. At such time, dogs can help you a lot. Sometimes dog's company is far better than human's. We forget our stress when if play with them, spent time with them. They make our life better and make you smile all the time.

6. Are fun and loyal

Dogs are fun loving creatures. They play with you, make fun and be angry sometime. They never betray you. They are so much loyal to us. When we are back to our house then dogs are the one who keep waiting for us and they become so happy to see us. Their love and feelings are so pure.

7. Remove boredom from your life

I personally love to play with dogs and be with them though I am a bit afraid of them. I also play and talk to my neighbor dog (Jack). Playing with him and being with him makes me happy. It's worth playing with him when I get bored.

8. Will love you how you are

Dogs never see you as rich and poor. They eat anything you give to them with you love and care. If you love them then they will also love you back. They never place their back at you if you are sick or dirty. They appreciate and love you how you are.

9. Lovely creature

It's really amazing to watch the dog. I personally feel so good to watch him/her play, laugh, sleep. Dogs are so lovely and beautiful creature that are gifted to this world.

So let's not hate them and punish them if they eat food of your house. Barking is their way of speaking. If you hurt them then obviously they will bark you so bad. They also want to be loved, cared and be safe. So love them and give chance them to love you back.

Winter Blessings

Winter has just arrived at our doors and guess what I am very happy to welcome winter. Winter is one of my favorite season and I just love it. My hands and feet remain cold (very cold) all the time. Though I am happy that winter is here. Winter has actually lots of bright parts than the dark one. And today I am going to share some happy parts that I like about this cold.

Winter Foods

I guess tea and coffee are best of all during cold. Hot soups, hot food, everything is so delicious about winter. Even we can eat more during winter than in sunny days. And foods don't easily stink, so no more wasting of food.

Warmth

Winter is so good for sleeping and it also increases our energy. The warmth during we feel along with cold is so amazing. When we sleep, that warmth makes our sleep so nice. I know much cold is not so stunning but little bit of warmth that we feel to overcome that cold is just awesome.

Better Breathing

The atmosphere during cold is so fresh and clean. A single breath that we take makes us feel refreshing all the day. Let's just say winter means goodbye to all the bad air quality.

 Rosy Cheeks

It's supposed to be with girls. Winter brings the redness to your cheeks making you look beautiful. So if you forget to apply blush during winter, season will help applying for you.

 Good time for exercise

Doing exercises like running is far more easy and comfortable during cold. You can feel the heat in your whole body and you totally like that heat. You can have very good health through exercises in winter.

No umbrella and sunglasses

In summer, we can't leave house without umbrella and sunglasses. Sun is so disturbing to our eyes and face. But in winter all we do is leave those stuff and feel the warmth of sun.

Snow

I guess everybody loves snowfall. Playing with snow is favorite game of winter. Snowfall is the best part of winter and snow makes look environment very beautiful and clean.

So everyone keep calm and enjoy winter!!!

Stranger Things Review

Season One

I know it's late (actually very very late) for the review of this series. But I really wanted to write about this one. So it's never too late to start something. Since we all are still waiting for season two I definitely can start writing for the first one.

 Chapter One

When I first heard about this series I thought it was horror, like really "horror". But when I completed watching I find it very interesting and people who are afraid to watch horror movies, I advice them that you definitely must watch this.

This series is based on mainly five child characters, Mike, Will, Dustin, Lucas and Eleven. The ghost part of this series is Demogorgon. The episode starts being interesting when Will disappears. And his mother Joyce launches an investigation to find his son. In whole episode police (Chief Hopper and his crew), Joyce and Will's friends keep looking for Will. We can also see some romance between Nancy(Mike's big sister) and her boyfriend Steve.  A girl named Eleven  with some supernatural power keeps running like she is being chased by someone. And this episode ends when she  meets Will's friends at forest when they were looking for Will.

Chapter Two

In this episode boys(Mike, Dustin, Lucas) brings Eleven to Mike's house and they hide her from everyone. Joyce still believes that her son alive so she keeps looking for him including Jonathan(Will's big brother), chief Hopper and boys. At the middle of this chapter, boys come to know that Eleven has some supernatural power and they find possible to find Will with her help. This episode also revels about the secret government experiments. And Eleven was being forced to be part of that experiment by her own father who was head of that secret group. Joyce gets some vibes from light about his son(sounds like crazy like now).. Jonathan, standing far from the house takes some pictures of the party which was at Steve's house from his camera.  And Barbara(Nancy's best friend) disappears at the end of this episode.

Chapter Three

Nancy gets worried since Barbara doesn't attend school for days. Joyce manages to light up her whole house with various light as she feels she can talk or communicate to her son through these light. But everybody thinks that she has gone mad. Police keeps their investigation on. Boys also keep looking for Will. In this episode we can also see that Eleven was forced to be experimented by the secret government group. She was forced to participate in those experiments without her will. Nancy including Steve and his friends catch Jonathan with the photos of that night and they tear them all. Nancy goes to Steve house where they had had party and she sees or feels something over there. Police finds Will's body at the pond and boys with Eleven see that too but they can't believe that.

Chapter Four

Will's family and his friends can't believe that Will is dead. They still believe that he is alive and on top of that Eleven makes sure that Will is alive. By using her power, through radio that boys use to talk to each other, they can hear what Will is talking. Boys take Eleven to Mr. Clarke's (school teacher) Heathkit ham shack for stronger radio so they can talk and find Will. Nancy talks to police about Barbara missing and through the photo that Jonathan clicked, Nancy sees something in that photo close to Barbara. The secret government group keeps their experiments on and do experiments to find or know about Demogorgon. Chief also don't believe about Will's death so he goes to check the dead body and he finds his body is totally fake.

Chapter Five

Chief somehow finds the secret government experiment place and goes there and there he is taken by some other people and when he gets his consciousness he finds himself in a cottage of nowhere. The funeral of Will is prepared. Nancy and Jonathan prepares to find that "something weird thing". Boys find something about upside down, so they go in search of gate but since that gate is the place where Eleven was being experimented, she doesn't want them to go near the gate so she use her power to manipulate the direction of compass boys were using. Because of Eleven Lucas get into fight with boys. Jonathan and Nancy go to forest at night with aim of killing that weird thing and Nancy gets inside a tree following the sound.

Chapter Six

Nancy and Jonathan see that weird thing at the forest and they somehow manage to escape from there. Chief and Joyce go to see Eleven(actually Jane) mother to ask about her daughter and to know about the relationship with Dr. Brenner so that they can know what  Dr. Brenner is up to. But they don't find any information. Lucas goes alone to find the gate. And Mike and Dustin go to find Eleven since they left her after the fight.

Chapter Seven

Dr. Brenner find his daughter i.e. Eleven, so he chases her and boys take Eleven and they run. But chief get there where boys were hiding with Eleven and he gets them home. Since Eleven is the only way(having supernatural power) to find Will and Barbara, boys along with Nancy, Jonathan, Joyce and Chief get to work to manage to find Will by the help of Eleven. Eleven says she can find Will and Barbara in the bath so they create sensory deprivation tank. And by using her power Eleven finds that Barbara is dead and Will is still alive and he is scared and lost somewhere.

Chapter Eight

Joyce and Chief go to Hawkins Lab where experiment of that weird thing is done. Nancy and Jonathan sets a trap for that thing in Jonathan house and then they call that weird thing. Since that thing is sensitive to blood, they cut their hands and let their blood flow to call that thing. In mean time Steve comes there and after some time that thing comes and they all fight with that kill that one. Here at the other side, Eleven and the boys are hiding at the school from Dr. Brenner and his group and they are also attacked by that thing. Eleven uses her full power to destroy that thing but she gets disappeared after killing that thing. And at Hawkins Lab Joyce finds Will. He is taken to hospital and treated completely. But Will pukes a small insect type thing from his mouth that can be baby Demogorgon. 

The end of this series is totally exciting and there are lots of secrets to come. I am desperately waiting for the second season to come soon.

Utilization of boring time

Hello guys!!! it's been long time that since I'd posted my last post. Let's just say that I was at my festive break. Me being a Nepali I celebrated our biggest festival "Vijaya Dashain". And also being a Newari, last couple of weeks were full of feasts. During these festivals and feasts we really have nothing to do but at the same time we also are busy, don't know why and where. Sometime we get bored due to large number of feasts.

 During this holiday, I also got bored some days. And since it was time of festival I was not interested in studying and all so I kept myself busy at some other very interesting works. I made wind chime from newspaper and dream catcher.

Wind Chime

                      

I had made these wind chimes only from newspapers or we can also use paper. We simply need some newspapers, threads, paint colors and brush, needle, scissors, glue. It is very simple and easy to make. Since it's of paper it doesn't make sound when wind blows but I find this wind chime very attractive. This is why I tried to make and this was the result. I ended up making like these.

Dream Catcher

                             

It's the first time I made these dream catchers and I am very happy seeing these. I didn't think I won't make like this at first time. It seems hard and complicated to make but actually it's really easy. If you have few basic materials then you can get result like mine or may be far better than mine. I have used few decorative materials like feathers, pearls. I hope these catchers will catch my bad dreams and help me to get sound sleep.

I've learned all these from YouTube and I find it very creative, interesting and easy. I utilized my boring time making these. If you guys also want to make then you can give a try and see how it goes.

7 Tips To Control Your Anger

People who are close to me, to my behaviors,and emotions, know that I have a high temper. So I definitely need to learn to control it and also implement it. To be honest I tried a lot to control it, not to get angry but Today also, my anger know when to show up. So this is one of my next try to control my temper i.e writing about it and making known to you all. I hope this attempt will help me a lot to think positive and be positive. Ways to control anger are different according to the person. So here, I have listed some of the ways I think and prefer that will help you to be calm and reduce your anger.

1. Own it

You just need to pretend like you are OK. You must think that you are not angry and you are fine. You should not over think about the topic and make your temper high.

2. Share carefully

 Sharing is the best way to keep calm and forget what just happened. If there is a friend or loved one you trust, sharing your feelings with them can sometimes be cathartic. Sometimes you just can't keep things to yourself and you need to pour them to someone.

3. Think before you speak

In the heat of the moment, it is easy to say something you'll later regret. So you should think and speak carefully.

4. Once you're calm, express your anger

You don't know what you are doing or saying when you are angry. So just stop and do not act and say anything when you are at the high level of your temper. Instead express your anger once you are calm . Express your frustration in an assertive but confrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly without hurting others or trying to control them.

5. Get some exercises

Physical activity can reduce stress that can cause you to become angry. If you feel your anger escalating go for a walk or run, or spend some time doing other physical activities.

6. Take a timeout

Break always helps things to tie up. One should take breaks to think and rethink. A few moments of quiet time might help you feel better prepared to handle what's ahead without getting irritated and frustrated.

7. Find possible solutions

Every problem has got it's solution somewhere. So you just need to identity them and implement them. If you are angry with someone then you should talk to them instead of thinking yourself and hurting yourself. When you are angry, you just need to give a try, then there you will find a solution. 

At the end, the best way to control your anger is try not to get angry and keep your temper low. Keep calm and smile.

7 Things students want in exam hall

I can't wait to publish this post in my blog. I know that exams are the nearest and dearest enemies of students. Exams never leave us alone. When we go to our exam halls, we started to think of many things except answers to the questions. Exam hall is not our classroom but we wish, just for some hours it could be our classroom where we are free to do anything. We end up saying "IF" for many things during exams.I have listed some of the things that I personally wish for exams.

1. Not first bench seat
I know we all have been through this. First thing you want to know while entering the exam hall is your seat. And if, it is first bench then there you go... you start to forget everything that is in your mind. Though you are pretty confident about the subject, you feel so unlucky to be the first bench er in your exam.

2. No CCTV cameras
Why is CCTV staring at me so much? Am I that beautiful? Na..... CCTV cameras are second thing you started searching entering your exam room. This is not so fair for students. Even though there are 3 invigilators in small room why CCTV. Do they want to show how advance is their college?

Struggles wearing glasses

I recently started wearing glasses because of my poor vision. It has just been few days and I felt very difficult to wear it. May be it is happening because wearing glasses has not been my habit for so long but problems that I am facing are really bad. When my friends with glasses told me these problems I used to react like "OK". But now I am facing these all. Don't get me wrong: Glasses can be super cute and a totally heavy accessory at same time. Here I have shared difficulties I personally find wearing glasses.


1. Picking out new glasses is stressful

I am wearing glasses for the first time. And guess what, I spent hours only to choose the frame for my glasses. I mean it's really hard when it comes to choosing frames. I hope next time I will take much less time than this.

2. Cleaning your glasses all the time

You always feel like your glasses are not clean and you end up cleaning constantly.

22 Things I Learned Before 22

My birthday just passed, so in  honor of 22 years on this crazy earth, I decided I'd write about 22 things I've learned in my 22 years.